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Happy New Year my dear J of H friends. Welcome to 2019. I hope that you all had a wonderful blessed Christmas holiday and that this cold January Monday finds you all well.

Today, instead of highlighting the usual new year’s resolutions, I thought I would start off this new year reflecting upon a personal inventory from an article I recently read by Julio Melera on “Living our Lives on Purpose”. As I share some of it’s highlights with you today, it’s a reminder for all of us to maximize the moments, prioritize our lives and make sure we all live on purpose.

So here goes ! “What Will Matter”?

Ready or not, some day it will all come to an end. There will be no more sunrises, no minutes, hours or days. All the things you collected, whether treasured or forgotten will pass to someone else.

Your wealth, fame and temporal power will shrivel to irrelevance. It will not matter what you owned or what you were owed.

Your grudges, resentments, frustrations and jealousies will finally disappear. So too, your hopes, ambitions, plans and to do lists will expire. The wins and losses that once seemed so important will fade away.

It won’t matter where you came from or what side of the tracks you lived on at the end. It won’t matter whether you were beautiful or brilliant. Even your gender or skin colour will be irrelevant.

So what will matter? How will the value of your days be measured?

What will matter is not what you bought but what you built, not what you got but what you gave. What will matter is not your success but your significance. What will matter is not what you learned but what you taught.

What will matter is every act of integrity, compassion, courage, generosity or sacrifice that enriched, empowered or encouraged others to emulate your example.

What will matter is not your competence but your character. What will matter is not how many people you knew, but how many will feel a lasting loss when you’re gone.

What will matter is not your memories but the memories that live in those who loved you. What will matter is how long you will be remembered, by whom and for what.

Living a life that matters doesn’t happen by accident. It’s not a matter of circumstances but a choice.

Choose to live a life that matters !

Some powerful “food for thought” in my opinion for us all to begin this 2019. Enjoy the rest of your day and we’ll catch up in February. God bless you all, MJ xo



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